Dating someone is not at all hard but it is difficult for those men who are shy. As they are shy, they don’t open up to the other person easily. Whereas the dating rule says that the men should approach a woman and be a gentleman by providing her the importance and comfort she expects.
For the shy men it can be a difficult task and thus they face lots of problems whenever they have to ask a woman out for a date. We bring to you some simple tips and suggestions which can help you with finding a proper date for yourself.
The very first rule of the dating is to look for a person who’s with the same frequency as yours. You would certainly not like to land up in a date where you would feel awkward because you and your date have a different mind frequency. The moment you both have the same frequency, you might feel a bit comfortable and then only you would be able to provide her with the same comfort. Moreover, when you would have the same choices and frequency, your shyness would go away gradually and you can have an enjoyable date. So, never look for differences if you’re shy, rather similarities can be really helpful.
Avoided Crowded Places:
It is necessary that you avoid meeting the women at the bar or other crowded place. This way you would feel awkward and won’t be able to communicate more. Shyness is the result of the thought that you’re being observed. Due to this, you watch every step and word and thus you end up meet less and communicate less. When you’re in crowded place, the feeling of being observed will prevail and would stop you from communicating with your date. Rather, select a nice and less crowded place where you are comfortable. Then only you would be able to make your date comfortable and happy.
Stay Within Your Comfort Zone:
In order to impress your date don’t try to leave your comfort zone and do something extraordinary. It is better that you stay within your comfort zone so that you can have a nice date. Remember, the moment you step out of your comfort zone, you would start feeling shy and that would ruin the entire mood of date. Whereas when you’re in your comfort zone, you are able to make your date happy and comfortable and thus you would have a nice evening. Thus, it is necessary for you to stay in your comfort zone.
Don’t Be Perfect:
When you would try to make everything perfect you would certainly end up pressurizing yourself more and thus would end up in trouble. It is okay to be less imperfect. So, try out the thing from your side but don’t run behind making things perfect. This would again show that you think your every action is being observed and thus you would land yourself in trouble.
Give Her Importance:
Girls like getting attention. The other way to divert her attention from your shyness, pay attention to her and give her importance. Make her feel as if she is special that evening. Ask her a question, smile on her answers, make her speak and do things that would make her feel good. This way, the entire attention of her would go with your feeling of giving her importance and thus she might not notice about your shyness. But make sure that you play safe with this. Don’t make her feel like a suspect.
People say that shyness in men can be troublesome as he lives a little isolated life. This isolation may keep him away from the women and thus he finds it hard to have a date. Some possible solutions have been mentioned above which you’ve to follow. Also, you can rehearse before the date on how and what possible things you would say or can take help of the groups to be a little open. So, take these advices and go on a date.