Somewhere in the life, you must have gone through a situation where your anger has caused you lots of troubles. When you’re angry, the first and foremost thing you want to do is bust out on a person. You speak out whatever is there in your mind without giving those words a thought. When one does so, that person tends to speak out something which will hurt the other person and then the trouble starts. In some cases, angry person can even get into physical fights with another person. This is the most extreme case, though. During anger, the power to think is less and the person just does what he/she feels like without thinking of the consequences.
This makes it important for every person to be able to control anger. If a person is able to control the anger then the damage can be controlled. Many times, anger is the main reason behind job lost or a bad relationship. So, anger has the capability to cause trouble to a human in various ways than thought.
Firstly, whenever you feel that you’re heating up, take a time out. Find yourself a place where you can cool yourself down. Leave that particular place and move out in an open area, walk a little and get the fresh air. This would help you to bring back your mind to the normal situation and then you would feel a bit relaxed.
If it is not possible for you to move out at that time, then you can pause yourself and start counting till 10, slowly. This would divert your mind from the current situation and you would be able to cool yourself down. If you think this is not enough then repeat the step.
Also, another way to control your anger is to decide a saturated point. This means, make an angry level for you. And when you feel that your anger is reaching that level take the time out. Speak directly to the person and say that you are getting upset and would need a time out to calm down so that things won’t get out of control. Be frank with another person but make the sentence in your mind before you speak.
Whenever you’re angry, think of the silliest joke or something which could make you laugh. This might sound weird but it works for some people. Whenever you feel that you are reaching your anger level, think of a joke in the back of your mind and laugh. You would feel relaxed and would calm down.
You can also try to calm yourself down by listening to some soothing music, song of your choice or even, if possible, by doing some yoga. This way, you would feel relaxed and you would notice that anger is going away slowly. Also, you can use an image or some visual that can cool you down.
It has been witnessed over time and time that anger is behind the various damages that happened so far. Anger, not only kills the person’s social or professional life, but has the capability to kill the person from inside. It is better that before it affects us, we take care of it and control it. The above steps could help you out with this if you really wish to help yourself.